Although things have slowed down at the moment and there is not much left on the table that I can push for Damien’s case, I can still make a difference.
Missing Persons Information Hub (MPIH) See launch article
Over the many years Damien has been missing, I have come across random articles about the missing issue which could have been useful had I known. I was pleased to be asked by Charlie Hedges to be the family advocate as part of a working group with police professionals and universities and Missing People Charity. Creation of this website will make it easier for new people coming into this issue to find the advice they need, in one place.
I am a member of the Missing People Charity Advisory Board which is basically a think tank helping the Charity to plan content of events or giving opinions on subjects related to the issue from a family perspective.
I and another mother of a missing person, participated in police training sessions, sponsored by Missing People Charity. By sharing our lived experience of this issue and what went wrong or what went right, we hope to bring some insight to how families are affected, some for decades, when assumptions are made, and risk assessment is incorrect. Very often there is disconnect of communication which can impede successful relationships and a positive experience.
We were both also on the panel to create a bespoke candle for Missing People. Making contact with other families in this situation has been very helpful and mutually a supportive experience.
I have been fortunate to participate in several research projects by individuals and universities, in the hope my experience will help to shed light on the subject and there will be better understanding of this issue. The interest generated in the missing issue will be beneficial as people go missing every day Hopefully the insights I can provide will impact on police and research for the good of future cases
I joined a writing group, sponsored by Missing People, to help families use the written word to create poems or various other forms of writing and stretch our brain cells. It is a lovely way to connect with other family members while having a chat at the same time. Writing about my experience has always been something that was cathartic for me. To release those thoughts and feelings into a written form, either by hand on the computer helped me cope. It was also a journal which later came to be useful as I wrote a book about our family's experience. The Boy who Disappeared.
Finally, if being pro-active in the issue that took our son helps another family, then Damien's short life has been given a purpose.