Living with a missing family member is incredibly difficult. I say “living with” because we live in a twilight zone. Not knowing if that person is dead or alive. We cannot grieve. We know nothing. We do not have a reason why the loved one is missing. There is nothing tangible to define their intent to go missing. These are the lost people who vanish out of character. No previous episodes of going missing; not disenfranchised, marginalized, or criminalized so where do they fit into the perception of a missing person? The family left behind learns to wear a mask of patience which comes over time. We look like we have learned to cope on the outside. But the fracture within a family is rarely seen or understood. The loss of a person affects dozens of people in a community. Like pebble thrown into a pool, the ripples get wider and wider encircling friends and family.
This is a human rights and social issue. As those left behind attempt to come to terms with this ambiguous loss, anxiety, and depression, even suicide add pressure to already overburdened healthcare workers.
Author: The Boy Who Disappeared ISBN: 1789460719
Publisher John Blake Books
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